The Best Friend

In these blog posts, I  focus on real and fictional women whose lives exhibit both the elements of Gumption & Grace.


I deeply admire my friend, Eva. I’ve known her since I was 7 years old and we are going on 20 years of friendship (Wow! That makes me feel old..but mostly blessed!).

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Growing up, Eva was unapologetically herself.

On the playground, we played “Air Force” when other girls played princess.

She taught me it’s okay to use all the butter when making cookies for friends.

She showed me how to take a stand for what is right, without fear of what is popular.

She is strong and feminine.

Eva has taught me to be brave by speaking truth when others were only saying what people wanted to hear.

She taught me to be loyal when friendships are fickle.

Eva never compromised herself to appease others’ opinions of her.

 She taught me to see hurdles as things to be conquered, not feared.

She taught me how to be both a lumberjack and a lady.

But most importantly, her friendship help grow me closer to my Savior.

I would not be the same person today without this precious friend my life.

She is beautiful inside and out.

I want to be her when I grow up 😉

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What is the essence of a woman?

I feel like we get a convoluted picture of womanhood. In the last century, we have been inundated with a confusing visual dichotomy of what is expected of you as a lady.  We are told be empowered, strong feminists, but also to hang on to our soft, delicate ladylikeness. But can’t we be both? Many of the women who are exalted in the moment are vapid, their presence as short-lived as the next magazine cover. But there are others whose image are iconic; they are substantive because of their combined strength of character and feminine charms.

These woman of character had both Gumption and Grace.

Gumption and Grace is a blog dedicated to exploring how these two qualities work together to mature a woman worth remembering.

A Proverbs 31 Woman

What is a Proverbs 31 woman? Growing up in the church, I’ve almost resented this term because when you read the passage, she seems like this unrealistic ideal formulated in the male psyche. She seems unattainable. Unreal. It reminded me of the scene in Pride and Prejudice when Darcy describes the ideals of an “accomplished woman”, and Elizabeth scoffs that his description would be a fearsome thing to behold.

But is it?

As a newlywed, I have started thinking more frequently about what makes a good wife, or even, a good woman. After months of studying premarital literature leading up to our wedding, when I finally sat down to do thank you notes after the honeymoon, I did my fair share of binge watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians.  I have to say it was quite an entertaining education on exactly what not to do in a marriage.   It’s like watching a How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days approach to relationships. Though the women on this reality show are wrapped in a pretty package, their attitudes, values, and behavior reveal an ugliness that is hard to mask with a spray tan.

This Netflix binge, that helped me identify all the things not to do, drove me back to the prominent scripture of Proverbs 31. Breaking this passage down, this example neither felt hyperbolic or unattainable, but rather, empowering to me as a woman. Proverbs 31 was doable. These principles are qualities that we can all strive for and will make us better. I will struggle with some parts more that others, but that doesn’t mean these healthy goals shouldn’t take precedence in my life.

To best utilize this passage in my daily life, I broke select verses down in a table that looks like this.

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