Forgiveness: Vivé le Pardon

Have you ever had one of those moments when you thought you had forgiven someone, and then they do something bone-headed again and your old feelings come surging back ? Forgiveness is a powerful force that is contradictory to human nature. It has the ability to change the course of events and is a catalyst in the hearts of those who choose to embrace this gift. However, those who are not able to master this skill are fated to have lives tainted with bitterness and unrest.

Vivé le Pardon

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Jesus is Coming, Look Busy

Jesus is Coming, Look Busy

It’s the holiday season, and there is a volunteer opportunity at every corner. It is easy to be overwhelmed with the thoughts of what we should be doing or could fit into those blank spaces in our daily planners. There are cookies to be baked, parties to be planned, kids’ programs to be coordinated, donations to be collected, and the list goes on. During this time of year, it is natural to be busier than usual, but for some, overcommitment is a way of life. In some cases, especially with women, it becomes almost a weird competition of who can serve the most, and who can best balance the busyness of life. Lately, it’s broken my heart to hear so many of my newly-married friends joke that they are so busy that they barely see each other.

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Advice from a Newly-Vetted Newlywed

Advice from a Newly-vetted Newlywed!

Newly-vetted Newlywed

The last year of being a newlywed gave me more insight into myself and the meaning of marriage than any marriage advice books you read before the wedding did. My husband and I moved overseas just a few weeks after saying our “I do’s”.  Our move across the ocean meant having to say goodbye to all things familiar and lean solely on each other {and God} in our new home in a new country.

The whole process was like teaching a kid to swim by throwing him off the ship; you learn quickly to adapt or sink quickly. This weekend, my baby cousin, my sweet friend took the “plunge”, said her “I Do’s”, and has now entered the world of sink or swim marriage! Looking back, I want to share some words of love and {in}experience that will hopefully serve as some metaphorical “water-wings” to help you stay afloat and you dive into this new part of your life 🙂

  1. You don’t always have to be right– My husband and I have had countless “discussions” about the right way to load the dishwasher, sort laundry, even how to blow out a candle! Our discussions are usually extremely innocuous, yet when we get stuck over whose way is the right way, our silly disagreements can escalate into something foolish. Yet when you are first married, you are trying to merge two ways of life into one unified team. More serious discussions of where to spend holidays, how to plan your budget, or where to move can become points of contention if anyone is looking to win the other to “their side”. When you are learning to live with one another, my advice is to wipe your expectations of how things were done clean and make a new plan of how you will do life together!

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